Do you do board meetings? Like, family board meetings—where the parents sit down with lists and talk about all-of-the-things while the kids are kept semi-occupied with something else?
I thought that everyone did, but after talking with a few friends, maybe it’s a side-effect of my compulsive tendency to over-communicate?
In any event, Sweet Husband and I usually have bigger meetings every six months or so, and smaller ones in between. We don’t really involve the kids yet, but I have started asking for their input on things that pertain to them. We traditionally have used meetings to balance the budget and look at the kids’ days off and talk about who is doing which household tasks, but this latest one was a little more.
Maybe it’s because the kids are finally getting old enough to allow the space in my brain (and in the budget—yay! no more double daycare payments). Or maybe it’s that it’s a new year and I just like dreaming as the calendar changes. Whatever the case, as I was sitting down to think about the agenda, in addition to looking at the budget and planning for days off, I also purposely included space for intentions/dreams/things we want to do in 2019. Here is some of what we came up with….
Sweet Husband and I have dreamed up a big family goal of seeing as many of the National Parks as we can before the kids move out. There are 60, so it’s a tall order, even over the course of 15-ish years. Even if we don’t make it to every single one, though, it will be fun trying. For this year, we’re shooting for Haleakala, the Gateway Arch, Mammoth Cave, Hot Springs, and maybe Biscayne and Everglades.
Why those? Well, a few are just close enough to make short road trips out of, but the others are easy to tack onto trips we’re already planning this year. We’re spending a week in Hawaii in February with my family and some time at Disney next Christmas with Sweet Husband’s, so it makes sense to hit the parks that are near.
The Kid’s only request was that he wants to see more dinosaur museums this year, so we’re looking for those along our travel routes, too.
And, last, we’ve penciled in a few weekends to make a point to visit family this year, because it we don’t make space for it, the opportunities tend to get swallowed up quickly.
(Back to the National Parks thing—I’m also completely nerding out about camping at Dry Tortugas in 2020. [When we’ll be back at Disney in the fall. I’m still not sure how that all happened, but I’m cheerfully along for the ride. And it’s just close enough to Key West, which is the launching point for Dry Tortugas. And we could even ride the train back from Miami to Orlando!] Yeah, I’m way down the rabbit hole on this one, so, if anyone has been, spill your details now!)
Closer to Home
Little Miss says she wants to swim more, so we’re going to make a point to take her along for more of her brother’s swim team practices and figure out which swim lessons make the most sense for this summer.
I have a few volunteer projects I’ve been itching to take on (teaching some classes, helping with the school garden, doing a few extra things related to my work).
And Sweet Husband wants to read 15 books and draw a little each day. (I’m helping him with the books by making a slightly obnoxious reading chart that we’re going to hang on the wall. Partly because it’s fun for me, but also because I think it’s good for the kids to see that Dada has learning goals, too.)
Our Actual Home
We got so much done on the house in 2018, that it feels like we can take a break now. We’re going to finish our bedroom (paint and DIY flooring), and we’ve promised the kids a treehouse. With all the travel that’s happening this year, though, we’ve decided the kitchen refresh will probably get bumped to 2020. (This is not the worst thing, because I’m still going back and forth about cabinet/backsplash/countertop colors.)
There was a good chunk of 2018 that we spent in survival mode, and habits were allowed to slide, for all four of us. (And Christmas always throws us off, anyway.) But, for the grown-ups, it’s time to run more, drink less, and pack more lunches from home. For the kiddos, we’re really going to try to drill down a solid (shorter, more reasonable) bedtime routine, which should hopefully help on the morning end of things, as well.
So those are the goals/dreams/plans. They’ll change, of course. There’s never been a year without a few curveballs, and I’m sure 2019 won’t be the first. But, nonetheless, I put them out into the world with hope and a smile and quite a bit of excitement for the year to come.