A few weeks before Valentine's Day, a local photographer (Ailecia Ruscin of OhSnap!) was running a special on boudoir style mini-sessions. I love her work, and, frankly, thought it would surprise the hell out of Sweet Husband (which is both hard to do and great fun when you've been married for twelve-and-three-quarters years), so I snagged a spot.
Big question first: yes, I kept my clothes on. I think there's a bit of side boob in one, but for the majority, I was as much or more covered than I typically am at the pool in the summer. Think flirty, not salacious.
More importantly, though, I was surprised at how happy I was with how they turned out. Even fifteen pounds heavier than I like to be, with the stretch marks from my babies criss-crossing my belly, my roots in need of a touch-up, and all the other things I constantly mentally pick at--I looked really pretty.
Which was kind of a light bulb moment.
When was the last time you had photos taken of just you? Photos that make you feel beautiful or strong or smart or whatever feeling makes you swell up with confidence? Not you as bride or you as a wife or you as mom surrounded by your children--just you?
For me it was senior year of college, something like fourteen years ago.
To put that in perspective, I do "planned" photoshoots of my kids every birthday, and usually at least once more over the course of a year. I pick out special outfits. I try to pick a location or theme that shows their interests and growth. To be fair, I don't change as much as the kids do from year to year, but I sure as hell have changed in fourteen years.
I don't want to make this deeper than it is, but if our photographs show what we value--goodness, shouldn't we value ourselves? At least, I don't know, once every decade or so?
For reals, when is the last time you got dolled-up and got a picture taken of just you? If it's been awhile, what's stopping you?
Whether you vamp-up for a boudoir studio or go stand in a rose garden in a dress that makes you feel pretty, I would gently-but-strongly recommend the experience.
[P.S. If you're local, Ailecia is great. In addition to boudoir (which she has the most beautiful studio in the world for) she does families, weddings, etc., so hit her up!]